It makes sense, then, that you should pursue your dreams. As a spiritual person, I truly believe that the dreams of our hearts wouldn't be there if we weren't supposed to be living them. Given that, you can't allow fear (or any other perceived obstacle) to prevent you from living your authentic life. We've all read the inspirational stories of people who have overcome tremendous strife to live a life of victory. Well, if they can do it, so can you!
Recall the popular acronym for fear: False Evidence Appearing Real. So often, people buy in to false beliefs that keep them stuck. Some examples: "I'm not smart enough," "I'll never raise the money to start my business," "I'm too old," "I don't have enough experience," "I'll never make it without a college degree."
Friend, if you're holding on to these kinds of beliefs, I encourage you to let go of them today. The reality is, your destiny is in your mind. Change your thoughts, change your life. As Napoleon Hill so aptly stated:
"Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve."
Henry Ford put it another way:
"Whether you think you can, or you think you can't-- either way, you're right."
Over the past two decades, I've worked with thousands of people who wasted years of their lives being stuck in the ruts of fear and false beliefs. When left unchecked, fear can become absolutely crippling. That's why I want you to start taking control of your thinking and your emotions today. Ask yourself who you would be and what you would do without the fears, self-doubts, and false beliefs. Would your life be different? How so? What does it feel like to imagine yourself free, fulfilled, and authentically living your life's passion?
I encourage you to stop wasting time and seize the moment. Time is a precious commodity and you owe it to yourself to do the things you love.
If you're not sure of your life mission or your right livelihood, that's okay. Those answers are inside of you. Start by asking yourself, "What really lights me up?" Surely there at least a few things in your life that excite and stimulate you. Additional clues can be found in your:
- conversations with friends and family
- childhood dreams and pastimes
- volunteer activities
- church activities
- favorite movies and TV shows
- artwork, crafts, and other creative interests
- dreams (the ones you have while sleeping)
- blogs and social media posts
- home and office décor
- choice of books and other reading materials
- job search
- list of life accomplishments
- the music you listen to
Another helpful self-discovery tool is the "vision board" exercise. This activity will really help you identify where you are now and visualize the life you really want. Here are the instructions:
1. Get a large poster board, approximately 24" x 36".
2. Next, gather a wide range of magazines - some suggestions include National Geographic, People, GQ, Vogue, Town and Country, Better Homes and Gardens, Sunset, Martha Stewart Living, and The Robb Report. You might also want to include photographs, mementos, and other artifacts. Gather whatever symbols represent the life you have - and the life you want.
3. On one side of the board, write "The Life I Have"; on the other side, write "The Life I Want."
4. Starting with "The Life I Have," go through your magazines and other items and select the images that best represent the life you're currently living. Glue the items to that side of the board.
5. Repeat the same process on the other side, "The Life I Want."
What differences and similarities did you identify on both sides? Or were they completely different? What images from your current life can you appreciate and build upon? Most important, what steps will be you begin taking today to get unstuck and start moving toward your ideal life?
If you need more in-depth assistance identifying your authentic self and perfect livelihood, enlist the guidance of a licensed career counselor or a psychologist who specializes in self-actualization and career issues.
Already have an idea of what you'd like to do, but not sure how to get started? Consider finding a mentor - someone who is already successful doing what you want to do - and ask them to help you. Perhaps you could "apprentice" with that person for a few months. If you have a few extra hours during the week, you might also pursue a professional internship. These tactics will enable you to try on new careers and see how well they fit before making the leap from your present job.
Remember, people respond very positively to folks who love what they do. Moreover, your career satisfaction is directly related to your image, health, success, and overall well-being. Now is the time to start living your passion!
To your success,